Never say Never – the secret behind the Secret

“Never say Never” – the secret behind the Secret

by the Wake Up Message

Never say never!!!

Now this is a very wise saying that we like to use and pass around, but do we really understand it?

Let us first take a step back…….

You would most likely be in agreement with us when we say that the “Thought” is what comes first. Everything we do, create, destroy, say… initially there is a “thought”, which then drives the result, the “seed of the fruit” so to say.
But we will come back to this in just a bit.

There are a lot of really good books out there that teach us the “secret of life” or the “law of attraction” for example. Those of you that don’t know this yet, it’s an amazing and effective tool and we strongly recommend you to give it a try. Personally we found the book or movie (which ever you prefer) “The Secret”, written by Rhonda Byrne, very good. There are many more out there though, that are also really good!

Added to that, there are a lot of really good guides and instructions too, on how to make a positive and effective affirmation or self-suggestion (we prefer the term affirmation, as the other is a bit too “suggestive”)  J.
Affirmations can definitely work, if you use them right and believe in them.

However, amongst these and others, we felt that there is something else, something that doesn’t always get communicated or explained clearly or at least is not getting the attention or detail that we believe it should…

Never say Never…

OK! You say, I got it! So WHAT?!

In order to fully appreciate this saying, you MUST understand the following…

Your subconscious can NOT work with or understand negations, for example “No” or “never” or “not”.
If for instance you were to say something like: “I will never smoke again”, your subconscious will then receive the order “I will smoke again”!

Now, doesn’t that make the statement, “Never say Never” a lot more interesting?!

Why not just try it?!
Let’s for a moment NOT think of a house, NOT think of a car and definitely NOT think of a pink elephant… are you noticing something here?

  1. Our subconscious is completely ignoring the term “NOT”.
  2. We immediately had the image in our mind of the house, the car and even a pink elephant.

Remembering that first is the “thought” or “idea”… when we now tell someone (our children for example); “Watch out that you don’t fall”, immediately the image of what it would look like to fall is created in that individuals subconscious. As our subconscious steers our gross and fine motor skills, as to set the image in motion and convert it to reality, in the most cases the subconscious will ensure that that individual will fall and the image will in that sense become reality.  Or when we are told; “Don’t drive too fast”… what do we have the tendency to do?
Isn’t it also a famous saying that we like to what we are NOT allowed… Why is that you think?

This is how effective mental training works too…

Now, we do not want you to go off and cause anyone to fall… but you can try this J and you will see it works (even on yourself).

When we infuse our subconscious via different relaxation methods, with not only the “result” image but also add the related feelings (such as, how it would physically feel, what it would smells like, how it would tastes, what the sounds would be), then our subconscious would work to do everything possible to make these visions real.

More as a side note, top sportsmen do nothing else by the way…

Like so many habits in life… we feel that we are most likely not born to use negations, but our surrounding and environment trains us to do so, in a way. Thus, we must “de-learn” that!

You can do this by taking an hour or so, make a conscious effort to NOT use negations (words, such as “never” and “not”)…

Aha… the right way to tell you that would be:

You can do this by taking an hour or so and only use clear statements; direct orders (speak and say of the positive result you want only).

Here are some more examples:

“Do not come home after 22:00” – “Make sure you are home by 22:00”
“Don’t forget to buy that bread on the way home please” – “Please buy that bread on the way home”            
“I will never make that mistake again” – “From now on I’ll do so and so”
etc…

We do want to add a little note here… as you may now ask yourself… if I was to say “I will never make it”, considering what we have just said, that would actually mean you are saying “I will make it”… in other words, that would be a good thing?!
BUT… here comes the BUT and no-one ever said this would be as easy as that… what was the “image” you created in your mind… did you picture the “never” or did you picture “you made it”? Was it both maybe… which one will win
Simply put, the image you create is what your subconscious will try to steer you to and this may very well be several images if that was the case. Usually, it’s the one with the least amount of “effort” and most natural. This is exactly why it’s so important that the affirmations, ideas, goals, thoughts you set are “formulated” right J and this needs training!

IMPORTANT, you CANNOT “delete” an image, however you CAN “replace” it… find the point in time you created the wrong image and now re-formulate that and replace it with the right one!

Using this method, we could certainly assume that it will advance us in life… but, it may still not make us happy. That may make you think a bit…
In order to go down the road of all things that could play a role here, such as “karma” or “how do we really know what exactly is the right thing for us”, we could essentially write a book. Which many have done and as always, we strongly encourage you to continue building your own opinions and finding your OWN TRUTH.

One thing that in our opinion plays a clear role in this though is the so called “Placebo-Effect”. Transposing the “Placebo-Effect” onto this subject, this would logically mean, by using this technique we can expect the success. (Which would normally also be the case). But here is the cracking point. Because the happiest we would really be, when we can learn to simply expect nothing, for the sun to shine, that our partner loves us, that the people we meet treat us with respect etc… Let’s just try to see things the way they are, without expectations; It is the way it is!

Here is a link to the video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2LCmkOiO_8

So, you now have the license to “Never say Never”…  we would like to leave you with a saying by Seneca;

“Expecting is the greatest impediment to living. In anticipation of tomorrow, it loses today”…

And a famous Irish Proverb;

“You’ll never plow a field by turning it over in your mind”

Source: http://www.wakeupmessage.com/

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Comments

  1. says

    Hi, wake up message.

    Just wanted to know.

    According to the law of attraction (“the Secret”) and like you mention above, the subconscious or the universe, doesn’t recognize the words “no, not, never, don’t and etc. what about the person who desperately need of money, intentionally said that “I DON’T WANT MONEY”, will the money still materialize?!

    Thanks
    SDD.

    • says

      Hi there SDD,

      The short answer in my personal opinion, in that scenario would be ‘NO’.
      This really is not a one time thing that we can just relay on when it suits us ;) it’s a way of being and living!

      An other factor here, I would be asking is, Money is probably not the right motivation ;)

      -More important and I quote from the article: …We do want to add a little note here… as you may now ask yourself… if I was to say “I will never make it”, considering what we have just said, that would actually mean you are saying “I will make it”… in other words, that would be a good thing?!
      BUT… here comes the BUT and no-one ever said this would be as easy as that… what was the “image” you created in your mind… did you picture the “never” or did you picture “you made it”? Was it both maybe… which one will win?
      Simply put, the image you create is what your subconscious will try to steer you to and this may very well be several images if that was the case. Usually, it’s the one with the least amount of “effort” and most natural. This is exactly why it’s so important that the affirmations, ideas, goals, thoughts you set are “formulated” right J and this needs training!…

      To continue on that note and referring to the article again: “Using this method, we could certainly assume that it will advance us in life… but, it may still not make us happy. That may make you think a bit…
      In order to go down the road of all things that could play a role here, such as “karma” or “how do we really know what exactly is the right thing for us”, we could essentially write a book. Which many have done and as always, we strongly encourage you to continue building your own opinions and finding your OWN TRUTH.

      Love & Care
      DNA

  2. Jason says

    All is One…so all thoughts, dreams, hallucinations, imaginations, beliefs, and emotions/feelings must be real on SOME level (dimension).

    Thus, logically, we DO plow a field by turning it over in our mind…but a field on another level (dimension)…rather than the field in our immediate (conscious) field of perception. What it takes to plow the field in THIS reality/dimension requires “energy”. Energy is what brings our thoughts into conscious (“material”) reality. And this energy (ie, energizing a thought) comes in many forms…such as manual labor, technology, magik rituals & practices, ritualistic ceremonies, chanting, group meditation, group or individual concentrated thought, thought repetition…etc. Edgar Cayce said something to the effect, “Spirit is the life force, mind is the builder, the physical is the result.”

    The more energy available, the less time it takes to manifest a thought into conscious reality. So a large amount of energy can create a quicker, or even immediate, manifestation of a thought…while most other thoughts may not make it to conscious manifestation…or to manifest materially only after a period of time. The latter two is a good thing because we need a “buffer” (energy & Time) to protect us from our own (and other’s) thoughts. Imagine if you were angry at your sister because she broke your toy and, for only a brief moment, wished her dead…and she ended up dying immediately. The world would be far more dangerous should most of us (me included) have the ability to immediately manifest our desires. Let’s save that ability for the so-called “Astral Planes” for now…another wonderful (and exciting) “buffer” between the spirit world and the material world.

    So we see the principle behind radionics…which is essentially “electronic voodoo”. Traditional, ritualistic, voodoo and magik is unreliable because it’s short-lived. It’s just not practical to swing a chicken over our head 24/7 until enough energy is accumulated to affect the desired result, nor is it easy to generate enough energy to instantly manifest the desired thought. However, radionics offers us a way continue energizing a thought by broadcasting it electronically 24/7. As a side note, an interesting experiment would be to fill an entire football stadium with people who direct their healing thoughts onto a single ill subject lying in the center of the field. The ill subject would likely be healed almost instantly. This would explain some of the REAL healings that sick or debilitated people experience in highly charged religious revival meetings, as well as holy/religious events (eg, weeping statues of Mary, bleeding statues of Jesus, etc.), and also some haunted sites where an otherwise residual energy from the past has taken on a sort of intelligence or autonomy from the energy of the many believers/visitors. The latter scenario would be in contrast to REAL ghosts of departed people who continue to linger on…usually due to some kind of emotionally charged issue or material attachment he/she was unable to detach from upon death of the physical body. (This is where the Astral Planes provide a necessary and useful method of working out one’s earthly/material attachments before the soul is able to move on…since such attachments are not really compatible with life in the “higher”/spirit realms. “Re-incarnation” of the soul also provides this important role of working out prior attachments.)

    Anyway…just as in radionics, the continual “fueling” (energizing) of a thought is how the ruling elite create THEIR dream-world through the people. The ruling class are master magikal/occult practitioners. The people provide the energy, while the elite directs (manipulates) this grand energy for their own gain. The people then naturally believe the elite have all the power. The world we have today is really the people’s creation…but the dream-world of an elite few. We have only ourselves to blame for the type of reality we have. The elite really don’t matter, for they lack the power (energy) necessary to manifest their dream-world without the people’s support. The elite very cleverly utilize numerous tools to do this…such as the media, entertainment, education, propaganda, the monetary system, medicine, vaccines, junk food, drugs, chemical toxins, etc. Fear is the ultimate result which sets the people into motion. Thus, the ruling class, along with media and entertainment celebrities draw all their power/energy from the people, who give them their larger-than-life personas.

    Did you ever wonder why we look with such awe, amazement, or excitement at “famous” people when we run into them in real life…even though they are really not that interesting or engaging to us in the media? How many times have you heard someone say about a celebrity, “He/she has such an aura (or energy) about him/her”? That “aura” comes from the directed attention of millions of people (fans or not). And how many times have you heard a celebrity or athlete state how performing in front of millions is so intoxicating…and how they love the “energy” from the people…or how they just want to “connect” with the people. This latter comment is suggestive of a person who is inherently insecure, and craves (or has become addicted to) the attention of (connection to) masses of people to feel “alive” and real.

    To manifest a specific change, the ruling class need only to keep drumming into the minds of the people the same thing (usually something to be feared) over and over again until it becomes an accepted part of their reality. This removes any potential backlash or national protest by the people when a so-called “new” law or bill is passed. After it’s passed, what individual would dare to, let alone be successful in, reversing such a law or bill except after great effort and support by fellow citizens over a long period of time? By that time, the reversal of the law/bill will be viewed as a “great success” and evidence that the people have a “voice”…when in reality, it’s just table scraps tossed to the people by the ruling class, who have been long busy fomenting a new project.

    I’m not a follower of Zoroastrianism or other religion…but I like the simplicity and conciseness of it’s essential moral code, which is…”Good thoughts, good words, good deeds”.

  3. Ann Rigby says

    Hi, thanks for the post.

    I was taught some of this 40 years ago by my spiritual teacher:

    Fear nothing, because what you fear, you attract.

    What you put your attention on, increases. That is why a war against drugs can never be won, with everyone’s attention on it.

    There are waves of thought rolling through the world and you have to be careful with your thoughts, and make sure they are not what you are picking up extraneously. I had a perfect example of that when I went to a funeral. It was a beautiful day and my heart was singing as I walked along the road to the church. As I entered, I suddenly felt a tightening of my chest, a grip on my throat, and I felt like bursting into tears. I said to myself “this is not me, this is not how I feel about this death”. So I sat down in the pew, folded my arms, double crossed my legs, tucked my thumbs inside my fists and told it to “bugger-off”. In a few minutes, my eqilibrium was back, but If I had not known this, I would have been a blithering wreck.

    My teacher always said : “The dead I can deal with, but God preserve me from the living”

    Much appreciated.

    Ann

    • says

      Hi Ann,
      Thank you for the comments! I can concur 100%
      There is a lot out there, that we may or may not pick-up on, but like you say, we just need to think about it and understand if this is ‘our’ or ‘others’ and is it ‘good for us’ or ‘bad for us’ ;)

      Love & Care
      DNA

  4. TabbyCat says

    What proof is there that our subconscious cannot understand negations? Byrne’s version of New Thought can be easily disproved:

    1) If thoughts and words determine your reality, if I think and say “I am dead,” do I die? According to this article, thinking “I am not dead” should kill you as well. Yet, even though I have now spoken, thought, and written these words, I am able to continue typing.
    2) Not all sentences using negatives are bad. If I say that “I am not a liar” will the power of my statement transform me into a liar even though my intentions are positive?
    3) It is stated in “The Secret” that our thoughts and words matter less than our emotions and intent. If this is true, the speaking of words is only a ritual by which to express emotion. Therefore, words and thoughts of any form are intrinsically powerless.
    4) The universe is not “conspiring” to give people exactly what they want and need if only they ask for it. If this were true, no one in the world would starve to death.
    5) If all it takes for a person to get what they desire is to think positively about it, the universe is likely amoral, as the universe is sending serial killers and rapists their next victims. This does not disprove “The Secret,” just question the ethics of the practice.
    6) Finally, if you are in a bad situation, thinking positive thoughts is not necessarily a healthy thing to do (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/long-fuse-big-bang/201007/why-negative-thinking-is-good-you). Arguing that a person is entirely at fault for every bad thing that has happened to them lacks compassion. I refuse to tell a molested child or a rape victim that they are culpable because they were thinking negatively.

    Additionally, you will notice in the movie “The Secret” the people who were interviewed as affirming the practice were motivational speakers who make a living off of selling this idea. Show me the high school janitor who benefited from this.

    • says

      One thing for sure…There is YOU and there is the OTHER. You are the mentality churning through the Other outside of yourself. How do you know you exist? You must have feedback in order to complete the circle of Knowing. Without feedback, you would shut down. The condition and quality of the extraneous stimuli or the Other can determine the makeup of your thoughts by impacting your added mentality through observation of the OTHER. Through your senses you discern something outside of yourself and it feeds back upon your mentality that there is something outside of yourself. If you can discern there is an other information base, then it can impact your mind of knowing. I can get deeper here through immersion. A person becomes through feedback. Without the Other, you would not exist. We humans ignore some folks to the point that they wonder if they even exist. Soon, some of us just withdraw and become nothing because we have not been observed and therefore do not exist. Do you exist? I do.

      • TabbyCat says

        Ok, I’m not trying to troll, but let me work through what you are saying:

        I know that I exist, and that I am a thinking thing (Cartesian basics). Does “Other” exist because I am perceiving it. or does it exist independently? In other words, do you exist because I perceive you?

        I’m trying to find how this can be demonstrated, so that we can say it’s practically useful. For example, I can perceive that I have hair, but I can neither think nor feel with my hair. Would my hair be defined as “other” as it is external to my perception? Are you defining “otherness” as a thing that is not involved in processing the perception? If I cut off my hair, does it fundamentally change who I am as a being?

        • says

          Any thing outside of your mind is the Other if it sends back feedback information that is LEVERAGED by your mind for added data to the mind or utilization by the mentality. What is used by your mind to move here in Time/Space garners leverage to your mentality with feedback as to what you perceive that it is. Each encounter with data adds to your understanding of what you are about. The Other could be only information to your mentality and is created by your mind to conform to an ideation that you think is valid. It may only be an illusion and you may be stationed in a virtual reality reading data. The universe is composed of data or information only. the pixels you discern are in atomic form to conform to your neurons needs. The mind is not, however your brain. The brain is a physical computer that is utilized by your mind as a storage unit for memory that is necessary in physicality. We share your mind which is a totality in an Always state. The brain only thinks it is a person for self-protection. It accumulates knowledge and wisdom that is experienced by what some call a life. You exist in a most sophisticated Virtual Reality that requires you leave periodically via dreaming to debrief in Eternity where we all are in association monadically as One.

    • says

      Dear TabbyCat,

      Thank you ever so much for your views on this, I appreciate it and can actually fully understand your view point!
      What you have listed here is one of the very reasons why we have written this article :) you will come to notice that in the second part of this article if read in full. Please bare with me and read in full the answers I put below :)

      Here are the points I would refer to:
      -?- When you add ‘do Not’ or ‘no’ when describing something… What happens in your mind? Do you or do you not see it?

      -?- Then, I know this sounds harsh, but have you ever tried the example we give above on a child or on your partner etc… What was the result?

      -!- Regardless of the just mentioned, :) it’s not all that black and white (even though that would be nice), there is and are golden middle ways to life and our existence and especially to subjects like this :)

      -!- More important and I quote from the article: …We do want to add a little note here… as you may now ask yourself… if I was to say “I will never make it”, considering what we have just said, that would actually mean you are saying “I will make it”… in other words, that would be a good thing?!
      BUT… here comes the BUT and no-one ever said this would be as easy as that… what was the “image” you created in your mind… did you picture the “never” or did you picture “you made it”? Was it both maybe… which one will win
      Simply put, the image you create is what your subconscious will try to steer you to and this may very well be several images if that was the case. Usually, it’s the one with the least amount of “effort” and most natural. This is exactly why it’s so important that the affirmations, ideas, goals, thoughts you set are “formulated” right J and this needs training!…

      -!- To continue on that note and referring to the article again: “Using this method, we could certainly assume that it will advance us in life… but, it may still not make us happy. That may make you think a bit…
      In order to go down the road of all things that could play a role here, such as “karma” or “how do we really know what exactly is the right thing for us”, we could essentially write a book. Which many have done and as always, we strongly encourage you to continue building your own opinions and finding your OWN TRUTH.

      One thing that in our opinion plays a clear role in this though is the so called “Placebo-Effect”. Transposing the “Placebo-Effect” onto this subject, this would logically mean, by using this technique we can expect the success. (Which would normally also be the case). But here is the cracking point. Because the happiest we would really be, when we can learn to simply expect nothing, for the sun to shine, that our partner loves us, that the people we meet treat us with respect etc… Let’s just try to see things the way they are, without expectations; It is the way it is!…

      -!- To close off my response :) we are in a material and dual universe… That is important as so many tend to forget that I think :) we need to deal with it and this is where I personally feel this proverb is worth gold! : “You’ll never plow a field by turning it over in your mind”

      Love & Care
      DNA

    • ibcraig0 says

      TabbyCat thank you for your well thought out response. I bought The Secret when it first came out and then I bought a copy for each member of my family. I then purchased the movie for all of them as well. As you would expect, every person I gave a copy to is still living the same life they were before I gave them that information, including myself.

      I have often thought that there is something missing in the information provided by that book because if it were as simple as it sounds in the book there would be lives transformed everywhere you look and all would be attributing their wonderful lives to that book. Alas, that is not the case.

      I have studied affirmations extensively and I have spent many hours using them, and using them in the manner described in this article without using the negatives and stating them as though they already had happened using visualization. I have experienced some small degree of success but overall, not what one would expect if this principle were as simple as it seems on the surface.

      I do believe that a thought is the “seed” of actions and success but I don’t think it is completely understood how to transform that thought into reality. Anyway, thank you for your thoughts and for putting something that I have felt into words that failed to come to me.

      • says

        Dear ibcraig0,
        I fully agree with what you have highlighted in regards to the book or movie ‘the secret’. For many as a first step and introduction to this subject, that is the right level, unfortunatly the disappointment is to follow :( as it’s not the entire knowledge and is actually superficially scratching the surface in my very own opinion.
        As Highlighted in the article… There is sooo much more to it! Really! And it’s not all to do with the same subject :) in the end it’s a combination of so many things and points to consider and in this article we highlight that and what we belive to be some of the key factors that play a role, in something like this working or not working! ;) here is my view in bulletpints:
        – at first of course would be the ‘Negations’ :)
        – followed by the fact that we tend to belive we can just ‘wipe the plate clear’ and start fresh :) thus us mentioning… One CANNOT delete an image… i.e the images already created are still active!!! And these do not necessarily need to be from this life time ;) … They can be replaced though.
        – the of course is terrible thing, that a lot of us like to do, called ‘expectation’… Bringing alive the placebo-effect in reverse… (If you know an aspirin is not actually an aspirin… Will it work?)
        – Training, training, training and most of all endurance… Why do we stop with affirmations, thanking and loving… It’s because we set an expectation of ‘time’ and then disappoint ourselfs :) Ideal, would be to have absolutely no expectations in life and stop considering these affirmations, thanking and love as a ‘petrol station’ or a ‘quick fix’ when we need it. This needs to BE you, part of your everyday living and way / manner of thinking and behaviour (all the time) ;)
        – Last but not least… The world and universe around us has some basic physical laws (which are in motion at all times). We can not just sit and wait for the bread to fly in your mouth just by asking for it :) we may need to get up and open the cupboard to get it ;) this always reminds me of the joke, with the guy stranded on top of a roof in a flooding asking god for help but dismisses the rescue boat, the helicopter etc… For god to then tell him ‘what more did you want me to send your way’ :)

        Love & Care
        DNA

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